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diamond
07-18-2010, 10:02 PM
A week from today, I'll be getting on an airplane for the first time in 11 years! :happyguy: I am SUPER excited about the trip, but I also have been concerned about the flight anxiety. Until I found this site, I honestly did not have a name for what it was I go through, but since I came here and started reading and studying, I realize that what I have is agoraphobia...fear of having a panic attack in a place where I am trapped. And maybe it is a combination of claustrophobia too.

Honestly that is what bothers me the most about flying. And, about driving on a busy interstate, bridges, tunnels, performing, etc. The horrible fear that if something were to happen to me, I could not get out of the situation.

Anyway, I thought I would describe what I feel like and maybe someone here can help me to demystify these feelings? Or something...I don't know what I'm looking for, really except to articulate and give words to what I go through, and just vent. I've never done that until I came here, and strangely enough, I find it comforting.

It starts when the doors to the plane are closed. It feels so...final. I can't get out. I'm trapped, I'm stuck. It almost feels like a tomb, or that I'm being buried alive. However, I'm still on the ground, so it's not too bad...but after those doors close, it's hard to back out.

Then, we take off. I think the taking off is actually kinda fun. I don't mind the high speed or the lift off, or even being up in the air.

It's just that awful feeling that, if I have a panic attack, I can't get out! And that triggers a panic attack! I've never had a full blown panic, but I'm always on the edge...and it's still very unpleasant. The emotional and mental strain it places on me is every bit as hard if not worse than the panic itself. I end up beating myself up, feeling stupid, foolish, etc.

I just want to ENJOY this flight. I really, really do. I want to enjoy experiencing my daughter's first flight and seeing that through her eyes. I want to ENJOY what is waiting for us on the other side. I want to ENJOY the 4 hour leg and then another 2 hours. I plan to bring magazines and crossword/cryptogram puzzles to keep my mind occupied, and lots of snacks. I even like the hum of the engine. It's rather soothing...but not enough to take away the panic!

I do not like feeling trapped. :( I do not like the feeling of being in a dream, like I"m going to leave my body or like I'm not real or something weird like that. Like I"m losing touch with reality, or I'm going insane. I don't like feeling like I don't have enough air, and I keep breathing and then I fill up with gas and am all gassy. Yuck! I hope I remember to breathe DEEP!!!!

So far, I've been sleeping well...I've not been so anxious to the point of losing sleep over this. And I don't have panic attacks just thinking about it, which is good. I am taking some vitamins and herbs that help too.

But I want to successfully overcome this!!! This may be the first of many, many more flights in my future (and I have a good number under my belt as it is, I've been to over 25 countries!) and I am determined that I am going to get past this.

Has anyone here ever successfully overcome the panic???

Aurora
07-18-2010, 10:57 PM
Many of us have overcome the thoughts, the fears and the anxiety - it can be done! :)

In your case I'd recommend trying to understand more of the air-plane. That might take that "tomb" feeling away. Get a bigger grip of what the pilots do, it's a whole world of information.

Feeling stupid is not uncommon either. Even though I have overcome the worst fears, I recently had a slight breakdown on an air-plane because of other emotions that overrun my confidence ( I was leaving a very good friend of mine ). I sat there crying and loudly saying I was so stupid for doing so - as a flight attendance tried to convince me I wasn't. And of course, neither of us (you or me) are stupid, since our brains always react according to what it experiences. There is no right and wrong, there are only reactions to our environment :)

Good luck and keep writing what you feel! You might learn something, or get some good ideas from it.

MathFox
07-20-2010, 08:20 PM
diamond, most of the people that came here and were serious about beating their fear overcame it. It is my feeling that it is 90% or more, but it is hard to keep statistics on a board like this (and we're all amateurs)

When I read your post, I am pretty sure that you'll overcome your fear of flying, you already have made quite some steps on the road to recovery. Read again what you wrote and you'll know how you can beat your fear!

diamond
07-21-2010, 09:13 AM
Thank you both! :)

I have found this site to be extremely helpful as well:


http://www.anxietycoach.com/overcoming-panic-attacks.html (http://www.anxietycoach.com/overcoming-panic-attacks.html)

I seriously would've never thought to work WITH the symptoms! I would always try so hard to get rid of them, or ignore them, or white knuckle it trying to prevent them. But I'm printing this out and taking it with me!

Barb-SAN
07-21-2010, 03:30 PM
I do not like feeling trapped. :( I do not like the feeling of being in a dream, like I"m going to leave my body or like I'm not real or something weird like that. Like I"m losing touch with reality, or I'm going insane. I don't like feeling like I don't have enough air, and I keep breathing and then I fill up with gas and am all gassy. Yuck! I hope I remember to breathe DEEP!!!!....

I have found this site to be extremely helpful as well:
http://www.anxietycoach.com/overcoming-panic-attacks.html

I seriously would've never thought to work WITH the symptoms! I would always try so hard to get rid of them, or ignore them, or white knuckle it trying to prevent them. But I'm printing this out and taking it with me!

Thanks for posting that link...it looks like a good site. I was reading through some sections, and see that Dr. Carbonell (owner of the site) is endorsed by Dr. Reid Wilson (of www.anxieties.com (http://www.anxieties.com)) as a "long-time colleague" http://www.anxietycoach.com/panic-attacks-help.html
He has written a book, and conducts fear of flying weekend classes in Chicago. :thumbsup:
I find it helpful to read different authors' advice, even when they have similar approaches to solving the "panic problem". Dr. Carbonell has posted a video on proper breathing...did you see that, diamond? http://www.anxietycoach.com/breathingexercise.html

Edited to add: Dr. Carbonell also has a page dedicated to Claire Weekes, "Float Through Anxiety". http://www.anxietycoach.com/claire-weekes.html . I read her book years ago, and found it helpful. For those interested in her background, and some history of anxiety therapy, here's a link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Claire_Weekes