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Oam85
09-10-2009, 07:59 AM
Hi everyone ,it's very nice that you all people create a community to help each other .

Here is my situation
Me and my girl,in a month or so,are going to start a new life together in a new country.We found jobs ect.We both are at the age of 25.It's a big step for both of us and we are very excited about that. I have traveled several times with plane until now with no serious fears.

My last flight was 2 years ago.That was the begining of what I am experiencing now.We went with some friends on vacation that we were planning about 3-4 years.Weeks before the trip,I started panicking.I was thinking,what if the plain falls?Will this be my last trip ?I felt so ridicilus ,I couldnt tell anyone of what was in my head.I actually forced myself to go on this trip because I felt embarassed.Anyway,the trip went fine,we had a great time to remember,and no plane crashes and stuff.But When I returned home, I was like,"feww,thank god or whatever I am back,no more plains for me"

As for now,thinks are a little different
I dont mind to tell anyone what I am afraid off,because the fear is bigger than ever.Bizzare thoughts come to my mind all the time.Actually It's sort of, you can say "theatrical":wave: tragic thoughts,very intence ,that keep me blocking from thinking clearly.I am afraid for my life more than ever,and not only mine.I try to find other methods to get to our destination like the railway,but It will take us days.And I know for sure that such an alternative trip will be a nightmare for her( and probably me).I know that I may overreact ,but that's all I can do.

Any suggestions ?

MathFox
09-10-2009, 08:37 AM
:welcome2:

Talking about your fears is good; tell it to your doctor too, (s)he should know a few tricks and can describe some drugs that reduce your fear. (Drugs offer no permanent solution, but I guess you must be stressed and busy now with the emigration, so you might need some additional help now.)
Try to understand your fears. We recommend http://www.anxieties.com/ as a starting place for information and we have more recommendations on our Resources page. Try to pick up a few fear-reducing techniques and practice them; take control of your thoughts again.
Flying is safe. There are thousands of plane in the air throughout the day (every red dot on http://flightaware.com/live/ is a plane) and despite media sensationalism flying remains safer than car travel (which is safer again than taking a shower, but I digress. :D)

Take care and come back, read some of the other posts too, as they may have helpful advice for you too! If you have specific questions, don't hesitate to ask them. :grouphug: