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WillFlyToDisney

05-10-2009, 06:54 PM

Andrea wanted me to let everyone on the board know about Jeff (JeffCalifornia). Any and all prayers and good wishes would be appreciated for Jeff, Andrea and the family.

Here is the latest from Andrea:
When he came home (from working in Hawaii) two weeks ago he wasn't well. He was admitted to the hospital last Monday with severe liver failure and gallbladder disease. He went home on Thursday, but he has gotton progressively worse since then. If the kidneys are also failing there is not a lot they can do other than transplant of liver and it will take time that he may not have.

WillFlyToDisney

05-11-2009, 04:03 AM

Update from Andrea: Jeff does have hepatorenal syndrome (kidney and liver failure).

From Wikipedia (because I looked it up to get more info):
Hepatorenal syndrome (HRS) refers to acute renal failure (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Acute_renal_failure) that occurs in the setting of cirrhosis (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Cirrhosis) or fulminant (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Fulminant) liver failure (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Liver_failure), sometimes also associated with portal hypertension (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Portal_hypertension), usually in the absence of other disease of the kidney (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Kidney).[1] (http://www.takingflight.us/forums/#cite_note-IAC-0)[2] (http://www.takingflight.us/forums/#cite_note-FloWo-1) Hepatorenal syndrome is thought to be caused by an alteration in blood flow and blood vessel tone in the circulation that supplies the intestines (the splanchnic circulation (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Splanchnic_circulation)) and the circulation that supplies the kidney.[3] (http://www.takingflight.us/forums/#cite_note-Arroyo1-2) It is usually indicative of an end-stage of perfusion, or blood flow (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Hemodynamics) to the kidney, due to deteriorating liver (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Liver) function. Patients with hepatorenal syndrome are very ill, and, if untreated, the condition is usually fatal. Treatment usually involves medical therapy or TIPSS (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Transjugular_intrahepatic_portosystemic_shunt) as a bridge to liver transplantation (http://www.takingflight.us/wiki/Liver_transplantation).[2] (http://www.takingflight.us/forums/#cite_note-FloWo-1) However kidneys from patients with hepatorenal syndrome have been used successfully for renal transplant.

I have the hospital information for Jeff if anyone is interested in sending something to him. PM me for more info.

Thanks,
Kelley

Barb-SAN

05-11-2009, 06:05 AM

Update from Andrea: Jeff does have hepatorenal syndrome (kidney and liver failure).

I'm so sorry to hear this terrible news. The Wikipedia information certainly sounds grim (though perhaps with some bits of hope).

For those who are new, Jeff has been a long-time, valuable member here, and has provided encouragement for many fellow TF'ers, as well as sharing his own experiences and suggestions for dealing with FoF. I enjoyed meeting him and Andrea at two of the Flight Fests...and will be keeping them both in my thoughts in this difficult time. We'll hope that the Drs. can perform a medical miracle.

:grouphug:

aerobat

05-11-2009, 06:59 AM

Jeff, the old-timers at TF are pulling for you and praying for you and your family. I wish there were more I could do.
Barb

noflyingfan

05-11-2009, 09:54 PM

Been awhile since I posted, but I wanted to pop in after Kelley shared the news.

I haven't had the pleasure of meeting Jeff or Andrea in person, but getting to know him (and indeed, the whole family, through Jeff) on TF has been a real pleasure. It's so hard when bad things happen to good people, and Jeff...he's good people.

I'll be keeping the whole family in my prayers.

WillFlyToDisney

05-11-2009, 11:36 PM

Today is Jeff Jr.'s 2nd birthday. His birthday wish is for his Daddy to get better.

Happy Birthday Junior! :magic:

tabbygirl

05-11-2009, 11:39 PM

This is terrible news, and I pray things turn around. Jeff is a sweetheart - I've been helped many times by his common sense and good humor. I hope so much he will be all right.

WillFlyToDisney

05-12-2009, 12:47 AM

Just got another update from Andrea:

Jeff's tests are not improving yet, but we have hope that maybe his kidneys can be stabilized. He is getting all nutrition, fluids and meds through IV/pic line to try and give the digestive system a complete rest.

Please continue to keep Jeff and the family in your prayers.

Thanks,
Kelley

LeslieDEN

05-12-2009, 02:23 AM

Jeff, please get better. This is shocking news. Kelley, thank you for keeping us updated.

I did have the pleasure of meeting Jeff and Andrea at a couple of FlightFests, and they are a terrific couple. Jeff always seemed so healthy and vibrant; this comes out of nowhere. Please get better, Jeff. Come back and make us laugh again. We are all pulling for you.

scottr0829

05-12-2009, 02:45 AM

Thanks Kelley for sharing.

Jeff, please get better and come back soon. Your posts were always fun to read and you really had a lot to offer other FoFer's.

scottr0829

05-12-2009, 03:10 AM

For those that want to put a face to the name, one of my favorite threads that he was involved in was: http://www.takingflight.us/forums/showthread.php?t=7936

and specifically the video he created of the house he rented in hawaii is linked at: http://www.takingflight.us/forums/showpost.php?p=75843&postcount=42

WillFlyToDisney

05-12-2009, 03:54 AM

Here are a few pix of Jeff and Andrea from Flightfest 2006 in Nashville.

http://i57.photobucket.com/albums/g230/KBarrett21/CIMG6421-1.jpg

http://i57.photobucket.com/albums/g230/KBarrett21/CIMG6420.jpg

cshollingsworth

05-13-2009, 08:05 PM

Hoping that Jeff pulls through this awful situation! Keeping you in thoughts and prayers, buddy!

Jeff was one of the first people I "met" during a chat session late one night along with Kelley.

Hang in there! :grouphug:

Lynda

05-14-2009, 06:00 AM

Praying for a complete and speedy recovery Jeff. Will be thinking of you and your family in the coming days.

Thanks Kelley for keeping us updated.( Miss having you around)

WillFlyToDisney

05-14-2009, 10:23 PM

Had a quick update from Andrea last nite:

We had a little glimmer of good news today and will keep hoping for the best. Taking things day by day... hour by hour...

Will post more updates as I get them. Andrea is quite busy with Jeff and the kids but she updates as she has time.

Hugs and prayers to the entire family. Jeff's a strong person - I'm sure he is fighting this with all he has. I've known Jeff for years through the flying board and he is always quick to help anyone out. He's had us laughing in flying chat more times than I can count. Keep fighting, Jeff!

Agne

05-15-2009, 07:43 AM

I met Jeff and Andrea in California, they are a fantastic and sweet couple. I have pictures but I forgot how to post..

Keep fighting Jeff !!!! I'm planning a trip to California in september so get ready for a mini flight fest, I want to see you there :grouphug:

Hugs to you, Andrea and the family.

Barb-SAN

05-15-2009, 02:53 PM

Hi Agne, Good to see you here again! Here's a link to photos you posted in the FlightFest forum: ("Flightfest on the beach"...wow, it's already been almost 4 years that have passed since then!...hope you will post an update of how you are doing in the general forum!)

http://www.takingflight.us/forums/showthread.php?t=2960

http://i19.photobucket.com/albums/b162/Agne80/IM000275.jpg

And Kelley, thanks for keeping us updated with reports from Andrea. Hope the "glimmers of good news" continues.

Barb-SAN

05-15-2009, 03:04 PM

Here's another photo I found over in the Nashfest thread, Mark posted it, said "courtesy of Deb". This is from when we all got to do the "pilot walkaround" of a parked SWA jet, and pose in the engine! Thanks to Capt. Ray. for pointing out that photo-op (and arranging the tour)!

http://static.flickr.com/117/288829029_b44c79efd0.jpg

Barb-SAN

05-15-2009, 03:25 PM

From that thread (Capt. Ray's photo)
http://www.takingflight.us/forums/attachment.php?attachmentid=657&d=1139153671

WillFlyToDisney

05-15-2009, 07:24 PM

Thanks for posting those pix, Barb. I miss those days.

The latest update from Andrea doesn't sound too good (but there is always hope!):

Here at the hospital with my love. Labs are still worsening. Starting dialysis today to see if there is any improvement. Keeping fingers crossed.

StPeteMark

05-16-2009, 09:09 PM

I rarely get past the main discussion, but saw Agne's mention about Jeff from above.

Andrea, we are so sorry to hear this and you have our thoughts and prayers for Jeff to get better.

((hugs)) from two of your FF friends,
:grouphug:

Mark and Susan
.

WillFlyToDisney

05-16-2009, 11:19 PM

Today's Updates from Andrea:

No labs today since first dialysis just yesterday. We will know more tomorrow after labwork in the morning. Thank you all for well wishes and prayers.

Kidney and pancreas tests had slight improvement this morning. Dialysis went well and Jeff is sleeping comfortably. Snoring away :)

WillFlyToDisney

05-18-2009, 01:23 PM

The latest update came from Andrea's sister:

This is Becki, Andrea's sister and I am asking all of Andi and Jeff's friends and family to please keep Jeff in your thoughts and prayers. He has hit another rough spot in his battle and things are not looking very good. It may be a long night for them both. So please, please pray for them. He is having alot of pain and discomfort and his O2 sats are down to 92%. They put him on oxygen. Thanks!

Lynda

05-18-2009, 04:54 PM

Thanks for the update Kelley even though it is not news we would like to hear.

Come on Jeff, you can do this!!!!
Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

WillFlyToDisney

05-18-2009, 05:58 PM

Latest update from Andrea's sister:
Jeff is not looking good right now. He is in a drug induced state just to keep him comfortable. He is quickly getting worse and the prognisis is very grim. Andi and the kids are with him now. I will try to keep you all informed but I myself am headed to the hospital. Thanks for the prayers.

Lynda

05-18-2009, 06:03 PM

Kelley that is ever so sad, My thoughts are with everyone, Give him love and hugs from us all.
I have Pmd Mark twice now, maybe he is away???

WillFlyToDisney

05-18-2009, 06:09 PM

Kelley that is ever so sad, My thoughts are with everyone, Give him love and hugs from us all.
I have Pmd Mark twice now, maybe he is away???

I have also tried to PM Mark but haven't heard from him. I know he would want to know what is going on with Jeff.

The situation is just so very sad. My heart aches for Andrea and the kids. We're all praying for a miracle for Jeff.

Will keep everyone posted. Please pray.

scottr0829

05-19-2009, 01:02 AM

I gave Mark a call and left a message about Jeff.

Hopefully Mark checks in soon...

Kelley - thanks again for keeping us updated.

Barb-SAN

05-19-2009, 01:12 AM

I gave Mark a call and left a message about Jeff.

Hopefully Mark checks in soon...

Kelley - thanks again for keeping us updated.
Hi Scott & Kelley...we're on the same wavelength there...I called Mark earlier today...he said he would be posting on this thread soon...was away from his computer at the time of the call, and of course was so very sorry to hear about Jeff.

WillFlyToDisney

05-19-2009, 01:55 AM

Thanks Scott and Barb for calling Mark. I no longer have any numbers from the board.

Still waiting for word on Jeff and praying for a miracle.

Passenger Mark

05-19-2009, 04:05 AM

This is a shock for me. Jeff is a good friend, that unfortunately I have loss contact with since moving to Tennessee.

The Adminstrators called me today to let me know what is going on.

Jeff buddy... you have fought many hard battles... you know how to win!

This just is not right or fair.

I have moved this thread to the main discussion forum... that is where I want it.

Kelley... please keep us updated.

WillFlyToDisney

05-19-2009, 04:12 AM

cshollingsworth

05-19-2009, 04:15 AM

Still keeping Jeff in our prayers for a miracle. I simply cannot express how saddened I am to hear this news. Jeff was so inspirational to me during my early stages with FoF. I always thought that I'd like to have a brother like Jeff...cool and always "there" to lend support. :hug:

momrek06

05-19-2009, 04:15 AM

Kelley, I saw your message on FB and I just wanted to come over and offer my prayers for Jeff and his family.

http://i44.photobucket.com/albums/f3/momrek06/ThoughtsPrayers1.jpg

Passenger Mark

05-19-2009, 04:38 PM

Good to hear from you, Mark. Check your PMs - I just sent you one.

Still waiting for an update about Jeff. Praying his condition improves.

Hey Kelley, I responded to the PM's. If you get a chance, please pass along my numbers.

Any news today?

A bit of history to all... I was fighting my Fear of Flying (the hard days) at about the same time as Jeff. Jeff, Andrea, and their kids and I became good friends.

They lived not too far from me, so we would meet at Ontario and fly to Flightfests together. Poor Andrea, having TWO FEARFUL FLYERS on her hands at the same time! lol

One flight I remember in particular, we were coming back from Phoenix. The Flight Attendant let me hand out Peanuts to get my mind off my fear. So I put on the Flight Attendant apron, and started down the aisle! The passengers were great. We all, Jeff, Andrea, myself, and the other passengers had a party on that plane! It was Super Bowl Sunday, and the Captain was breaking in on the PA with game updates!

I never, even in the midst of his fear, saw Jeff down, Negative, or even in a bad mood. Both he and Andrea are just positive people, ready for any challenge, and ready to have a good time!

My heart is with them all right now.

WillFlyToDisney

05-19-2009, 05:28 PM

Thanks for putting this to the top of the forum, Mark.

Update from Becki - Andrea's sister:

Things have not changed much as of last night. He is in a lot of pain and they are really trying to keep him comfortable. Andi has been by his side since day 1. She is staying very strong for her family. Bren and Bekah had a rough day yesterday but it was so sweet to see Jeff, who doesnt say much, tell them each how much he loved them. Lots of tears shed but so much love. Thanks for all the well wishes!

Lynda

05-19-2009, 08:12 PM

Thanks for the update Kelley. Wish it was better news.:(

Passenger Mark

05-19-2009, 11:21 PM

Thank you for the update Kelley.

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 02:08 AM

My heart is breaking for Andrea and the kids. We all love you, Jeff.

Here is the latest message from Andrea (read it with a box of tissues):
I am sitting here in the peace of the hospital room listening to our favorite songs. Jeff is comfortable and quiet and loved. He is not waking much but we keep on talking to him and I know he is hearing us. I am gonna miss this man so much. I love you Jeff!

scottr0829

05-20-2009, 02:40 AM

:( I have no words to describe how sad I am for Andrea and the kids.

Barb-SAN

05-20-2009, 02:49 AM

Kelley, thanks for sharing this very sad update.

My heart goes out to all of you there in the hospital room with Jeff ... know that we are thinking of you in this difficult time. :grouphug:

Passenger Mark

05-20-2009, 03:04 AM

Andrea has to be the bravest person I know.

Big Hugs, prayers, and everything else I can think of being sent west!

noflyingfan

05-20-2009, 03:36 AM

Kelley, your last update broke my heart. No one deserves to have to go through what Andrea is going through. No one.

Please let her know we're all thinking of her.

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 03:41 AM

I did, Erika. I told her to please tell Jeff how much we all love him. How many days were the 3 of us in chat just goofing off. Jeff always had us laughing.

I can't imagine what Andrea is feeling right now.

Someone asked me earlier how old Jeff is - he turned 36 in March.

tusphotog

05-20-2009, 03:54 AM

Good lord this is awful. Thanks for moving this to the front page. Without the link on GOTP I wouldn't have seen this thread.

My thoughts are with Jeff and his family. I can't imagine going through what his wife and kids are going through.

Lynda

05-20-2009, 05:59 AM

Pass the tissue Kelley, this is truly heartbreaking, My heart goes out to them all.
How I remember the chats we had in the old days!

StPeteMark

05-20-2009, 09:36 AM

Jeff, Andrea, and the family have continuously been in our thoughts and prayers. We got to know Jeff and Andrea at many of the flight fests and they are wonderful people. More :grouphug: from us.

Mark and Susan
.

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 01:23 PM

Jeff passed away about 20 minutes ago at 4:55am PST.

Rest in peace, Jeff. We will miss you!

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 01:29 PM

From Andrea:

My angel Jeffrey Dale Drake Sr. passed away at 4:55am PST holding my hand. He is at peace.

MathFox

05-20-2009, 01:43 PM

Rest in peace Jeff...

And a lot of strength to Andrea and the rest of the family to deal with the situation and go on with their lives... :grouphug:

*two minutes of silence in commemoration*

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 01:46 PM

Just wanted to add a link to Jeff's page on YouTube - lots of home videos on there of the family.

http://www.youtube.com/user/boingonut1

scottr0829

05-20-2009, 02:39 PM

My deepest sympathies to Andrea, the kids and all of Jeff's family and friends. Even though I never met him personally, the interactions through TF were always fun and I looked forward to his posts as they were always entertaining.

:(

Andrea - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult period.

Chelle

05-20-2009, 02:59 PM

I hope no one minds, but I just wanted to come over and offer my condolences. I can't believe this happened to Jeff, and my heart breaks for Andrea and the kids.

I'm so glad I had the opportunity to meet and spend some time with Jeff and Andrea in San Francisco. I have very fond memories of our time together.

Rest in peace, Jeff :(

Andrea, if you read this, I'm thinking about you honey :hug:

Passenger Mark

05-20-2009, 03:19 PM

No one minds at all Chelle. :hug:

Jeff Buddy... you have taken your final flight, to the best Flightfest ever!

Our loss is Heavens gain! With your kindness, love, laughter, and wisdom, Heaven is truly all that it is suppose to be.

I will miss you my friend.

Andrea, My heart, prayers, and thoughts go out to you and your family. Know that we are, and always will be here for you. Stay strong as you can. :grouphug:

WillFlyToDisney

05-20-2009, 03:25 PM

noflyingfan

05-20-2009, 03:27 PM

Rest in peace, Jeff. Heaven is a better place today.

Passenger Mark

05-20-2009, 03:54 PM

Here are some photos I found of the San Francisco Flightfest.

Chelle and Jeff on the boat

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/mark9091/San%20Francisco%20Flightfest/DSCF0116.jpg?t=1242830966

The Group

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/mark9091/San%20Francisco%20Flightfest/DSCF0122.jpg

Jeff and Andrea

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/mark9091/San%20Francisco%20Flightfest/DSCF0125.jpg?t=1242832152

Dinner time, with Jeff at the head of the table

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v132/mark9091/San%20Francisco%20Flightfest/DSCF0119.jpg

CAflyer

05-20-2009, 03:54 PM

I am so sorry to hear this! It really puts in perspective that we should not let our fears hold us back. We need to do everything we want while we are on this earth, in reality a plane crash is a much smaller possibility than all the other things that can happen out there to us. I am really sorry to hear about this.

Chelle

05-20-2009, 04:04 PM

Here are some photos I found of the San Francisco Flightfest.

Chelle and Jeff on the boat

That's a great picture :) I have some of all of us in SF at home, I should have a look through tonight. It doesn't seem like all that long ago does it.

Barb-SAN

05-20-2009, 04:06 PM

From Andrea:

My angel Jeffrey Dale Drake Sr. passed away at 4:55am PST holding my hand. He is at peace.

Andrea, I'm so very very sorry. The last two weeks must have been very exhausting for all of you. We all were hoping for a better outcome.

Your post yesterday really touched me "I am sitting here in the peace of the hospital room listening to our favorite songs. Jeff is comfortable and quiet and loved. He is not waking much but we keep on talking to him and I know he is hearing us. I am gonna miss this man so much. I love you Jeff!"

He was very fortunate to have had such a loving wife and family who did everything possible to ease his transition. May he rest in peace. May his postings archived here and at GOTP continue to offer comfort to others who are struggling to overcome their fear of flying. :)

I was watching this YouTube video this morning, and it made me think of Jeff, who lived in San Diego and Ramona at one time. His spirit is soaring free now. The video was produced by a woman pilot I know from the local 99's, she posted it a few days ago. Be sure to have your sound turned on.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2GwJae1JkU

Passenger Mark

05-20-2009, 04:12 PM

That's a great picture :) I have some of all of us in SF at home, I should have a look through tonight. It doesn't seem like all that long ago does it.

No it doesn't seem that long ago. Happy times!

As usual, I am computer dangerous and messed up some of the photos, but I have them straight now. The one of Jeff and Andrea is a normal sight for those two!

Passenger Mark

05-20-2009, 04:16 PM

May his postings archived here and at GOTP continue to offer comfort to others who are struggling to overcome their fear of flying. :)

Barb, as usual you are looking forward! I had not thought of that. That is very special, and in that way, his spirit, energy, and compassion lives on.

Chelle

05-20-2009, 04:37 PM

The one of Jeff and Andrea is a normal sight for those two!
That is exactly how I remember them :) They were such a cute, affectionate couple. They could warm an entire room just by being there. I wish I could give Andrea a hug right now :sigh:

Barb-SAN

05-20-2009, 04:40 PM

I had posted photos from Nashfest linked to the TF Gallery (which no longer display in that thread because the Gallery is "down"). However...here's a photo from my own archives...from the Friday night Bar-B-Q at Mark's house:

Barb-SAN

05-20-2009, 04:49 PM

From Nashfest, Oct. 2006, SWA tour arranged by Capt. Ray Stark :) (with lots of photo ops :D)

Lynda

05-20-2009, 04:55 PM

Rest in Peace Jeff, we will always remember you.

Andrea, I am at a loss for words, so so sad, will remember you and your children in our prayers, Stay strong in this very sad time.

Lynda

Lynda

05-20-2009, 04:56 PM

Chelle,

No one minds, we are glad you popped over and hope others will do the same.

Lynda

I hope no one minds, but I just wanted to come over and offer my condolences. I can't believe this happened to Jeff, and my heart breaks for Andrea and the kids.

I'm so glad I had the opportunity to meet and spend some time with Jeff and Andrea in San Francisco. I have very fond memories of our time together.

Rest in peace, Jeff :(

Andrea, if you read this, I'm thinking about you honey :hug:

cshollingsworth

05-20-2009, 07:46 PM

I was hoping for a miracle, but it was not meant to be. I found a poem that I wanted to post in honor of Jeff...a most "fearless" flyer. :hug:

We toast our hearty comrades who have fallen from the skies,
and were gently caught by
God’s own hand to be with him on High.

To dwell among the soaring clouds
they’ve known so well before.
From victory roll to tail chase, at Heaven’s very door.

As we fly among them there, we’re sure to head their plea.
To take care my friend, watch your six,
and do one more roll for me.

— Commander Jerry Coffee, Hanoi, 1968

tusphotog

05-20-2009, 08:46 PM

Wow, this is really sad. My condolences to his family.

forcedtofly

05-21-2009, 12:33 AM

Wow. I have to say that I did not know Jeff and have not been on this forum long enough to know much about him. However, I have read through all the posts here, and I just want to say how sorry I am to hear about his death. He sounds like he was a great guy, and judging from the pictures posted here, he looked like such a fun person, and so happy together with his wife. My thoughts and prayers go out to his wife and family. I can't imagine their pain. It is so sad to see a man in his prime like that, be suddenly taken. As CAFlyer said, this should remind us to take advantage of every day we have, and to stop living in fear. You just never know what will happen tomorrow, and then it will be too late.

Sending my prayers for the family.

NicwantstoFly

05-21-2009, 02:56 AM

I too did not interact with Jeff, but am feeling that there was a very much loved member lost here. I just would like to send my condolences out to Jeff's family and wife Andrea, and to the rest of his friends and family. May he rest in peace.

Sincerely,
Nicole

navel_gazer

05-21-2009, 03:28 AM

I'm very sad to read this. I did not know Jeff personally but I know that his posts here have helped me. My condolences and prayers to Jeff's family and friends.

MonicaS

05-21-2009, 03:41 AM

I also wanted to stop by and let Andrea know that I'm thinking of her and the kids.

Andrea, reading the threads about Jeff it is so clear how much people liked him. I hope that the out pouring of warmth and affection towards Jeff will help you and the kids through this time.

It seems to me that almost every post of Jeff's mentioned you and the kids. In addition to sharing his FOF he shared his family with all of us. I enjoyed hearing about all of you. I was always so impressed with how comfortable he was in his affection for you and the kids.

As Mark and others mentioned there is a whole community of folks thinking of you. Please let us know if there is anything you need.:hug: Monica

StPeteMark

05-21-2009, 03:42 AM

WillFlyToDisney

05-21-2009, 03:50 AM

I rarely make it to the boards but when I signed in to post this thread I had 1 PM in my box from Jeff.

In that message he told me that he and Andrea just celebrated their 16th wedding anniversary in January.

Andrea, you both were lucky to have found each other. Your love for each other was so obvious to everyone. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. :hug:

Jeff was an amazing man and helped so many people here. I agree with Mark - I won't ever fly again without thinking of Jeff. He soars with angels now.

aerobat

05-21-2009, 03:58 AM

Barb-SAN gave me the news by email, as I have been away from the board for a few days. I was so hoping for the best, knowing that it could be bad. I am so sorry. I never met Jeff in person, but we have been buddies in chat and on the boards for many years. He was a warm, caring, and beautiful person and we have many of his words here to remember him by. My thoughts and prayers to Andrea and the kids.

It's nice to see some of our old-timers back too. I hope we you will come again and stay awhile.

:hug:

Passenger Mark

05-21-2009, 04:35 AM

Scott... Thank you very much for the banner. Very well done!

StPeteMark

05-21-2009, 05:18 AM

Good memories! First Flight Fest of TF, Phoenix, Feb. 2005, dinner at Rustler's Rooste, meeting Jeff and Andrea for the first time.
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Chelle

05-21-2009, 05:19 AM

Jeff, goodbye my friend, for I will think about you and feel your soul each time I fly. Andrea, we feel your heartache and wish you strength for peace in the days to come.

:grouphug: Mark and Susan
.
Mark, I found this picture I'm sure you'll enjoy.. the 4 of us with Jeff on the boat. Andrea was taking the pic with my camera. I wish I could find the original (higher resolution) copy of this. I just changed computers and can't find anything, grrr.

You and Jeff were helping me with my 'fear of ferries' that day :)

StPeteMark

05-21-2009, 05:39 AM

Mark, I found this picture I'm sure you'll enjoy.. the 4 of us with Jeff on the boat. Andrea was taking the pic with my camera....You and Jeff were helping me with my 'fear of ferries' that day :)Yes, I remember well. It was the second Flight Fest just a month later in San Francisco. It was windy and freezing, but that didn't bother Jeff...he was comfortable in a t-shirt. He sure loved the color red! :)
.

Passenger Mark

05-21-2009, 05:48 AM

Wow... I remember that boat ride over! And I remember the mad dash for the dock after I left my camera sitting on a post outside the hotel!

Rebecca

05-21-2009, 05:58 AM

All week Jeff has been so much in my thoughts and prayers ... it seems too soon for him to go. My deepest sympathy to Andrea and all the family. Jeff has shown us over and over here that getting through hard times is better done with friends and with encouragement. His personality seemed to transcend "the internet" and he let us know him, his enthusiasms, fears, frustrations and victories. Jeff leaves a great legacy in family and friends. I will remember him always.

Rebecca

Getb0rn

05-21-2009, 01:45 PM

Just wanted to show deepest sympathies for Andrea and family. God Bless.

Benay

05-21-2009, 03:34 PM

I'm brand new here, so I never got my chance to meet Jeff. I just wanted you to know that my heart goes out to all of you who did know this obviously well-loved person.

withoutwings

05-21-2009, 04:17 PM

I'm brand new here, so I never got my chance to meet Jeff. I just wanted you to know that my heart goes out to all of you who did know this obviously well-loved person.

I second that as well - being very new here, I never met the guy but he sounds such a wonderful person to have known.

Some people leave this earth very early (I lost my 18 year old son to cancer, 14 years ago) but for the time that they are here, they make a difference to somebody's life - Jeff it would seem was one of those people, and so my heart goes out to his loved ones at this sad time who have lost such a beautiful soul.

Gerry x

Passenger Mark

05-21-2009, 04:59 PM

Some additional information:

Kern River Family Mortuary,1900 N Chester Avenue
Bakersfield, CA 93308
Phone Number: (661) 392-9010

Kern River is handling the details.

According to them, the Services will be held at The First Christian Church on May 26, 2009

1660 S Street
Bakersfield, California 93301
(661) 327-1673
http://www.fccbakersfield.org/

I will update as I receive more information.

noflyingfan

05-21-2009, 05:20 PM

The banner is great. It brought a smile to my face when I logged on today.

I hope Jeff knew how much he meant to all of us, and I'm so sorry I never got to meet him in person.

And I agree with Monica...one of the things I will always think of when I think of Jeff is the affection he had for his family. It's not always easy to tell what someone is like on a message board, but with Jeff, you always knew you were talking to someone whose family meant the world to him.

Edit: Just found this old post of Jeff's. I think it's sweet.

Andrea is a leader in my daughters scout troop. My girl is entering 6th grade tomorrow... The troop has lots planned for this year as they realize this may be the last year some of the girls keep an interest in it... I hope Bekah stays in forever! I love the "Me and my Guy" dances the local scout leaders hold for dads and daughters. I dont dance good, but she doesn't care

WillFlyToDisney

05-21-2009, 09:14 PM

That's a typical Jeff post, Erika. :)

The first time I met Jeff in person, we were on tour and had a show at Pepperdine University with Josh Gracin. Jeff, Andrea and Bekah drove up and had dinner on campus then went to the show and meet & greet. It was a fun nite and I loved that they drove all that way! Bekah was just precious and you could tell how proud Jeff was of his "girls". He bragged on Bekah and her violin playing which of course made her blush. :blush:

During Flightfest Nashville 2006, Jeff and Andrea were the only ones who I told that I was expecting. Andrea and I were both sick as dogs but had a great time anyway. Jeff totally doted on Andrea - it was just so cute.

I was reading thru some of Jeff's old posts last nite and saw the thread about their planned May 2008 Hawaii vacation. He invited us to join them and meant it! What a great trip that would have been.

Jeff was so sincere and genuine and not afraid to open up about his anxiety and fears. We were all so lucky to have known him. Thanks, Andrea for sharing him with us.

cshollingsworth

05-21-2009, 10:49 PM

The banner is very, very nice. I logged on this morning and teared up when I saw it. I never met Jeff, but shared a lot of discussion on the board for several years.

One morning a year or so ago, I was on the way to work and saw an SUV in front of me with a brewing company sticker on the back of it, and underneath it said "Bakersfield, CA." I PM'd Jeff from work and asked him did he recognize the place, and of course...he did! He PM'd back and told me all about the place as he had been there himself.

36 seems too young to pass away. Just feeling so sad for Andrea and the kids right now. :sigh:

WillFlyToDisney

05-22-2009, 01:45 AM

Just got this update from Andrea:

Jeff's services are on Tuesday, May 26, at First Christian Church in Bakersfield. We have set up a memorial fund for Jeffrey Jr's college at Kern School FCU: PO Box 9506 Bakersfield CA 93389-9506. Thank you all for all of your thoughts and prayers.

Passenger Mark

05-22-2009, 02:42 AM

Andrea called tonight, and we spoke for quite a while. She is obviously worn out and broken hearted, but still her personality beamed through, we even laughed together reminiscing. Especially the flight home from Phoenix that I discussed earlier.

She said she had been to the board, but had not had time to look at the thread, but did see the banner and thought it was "awesome". She wants to sit down and read through it tonight.

She told me what Kelley wrote earlier about the college fund for Jeff Jr. And the funeral arrangements. Jeff's cousin is going to be the Pastor officiating, who has known Jeff since birth.

Lots of family and friends surrounding her, and lots of love.

She told me that everyone at Taking Flight and GetOnThatPlane are just awesome! And you all are!

MonicaS

05-22-2009, 05:32 AM

Good to get the updates. Thanks.

Erica, that post from Jeff was exactly what I was talking about. Jeff was just so unashamedly in love with his family and so comfortable in expressing it. Thinking about, worrying, enjoying and taking pleasure in his family was just a constant with him.

Andrea, it's strange because I deal with words every day. My job is to find words to help people and to help people find words to help themselves. But in the face of such a deep loss it's so difficult to find the words.

I'm so glad that you and the kids had a guy like Jeff in your life and that Jeff was lucky enough to have such a great wife and family. I hope the daily memories of a strong and loving relationship help you in the quiet hours. And I hope that the words here that are such a clear tribute to a man well liked and respected help carry you through some of those times.

Barb-SAN

05-22-2009, 05:42 AM

But in the face of such a deep loss it's so difficult to find the words.

I'm so glad that you and the kids had a guy like Jeff in your life and that Jeff was lucky enough to have such a great wife and family. I hope the daily memories of a strong and loving relationship help you in the quiet hours. And I hope that the words here that are such a clear tribute to a man well liked and respected help carry you through some of those times.
Hi Monica,
Good to see you again, and thank YOU for expressing that so well. They are my sentiments as well...:)

AZO-FA

05-23-2009, 04:43 PM

Well, I am so sad to say that this bad news is what brought me back to TF.

Jeff was an absolutely amazing individual and I can't believe what I am reading. He always had wonderful contributions and was a great asset. My thoughts are with Andrea and the kids...Jeff loved you guys more than anything.

I'm so sorry I haven't written more...but I am at such a loss for words.

DebbieL

05-24-2009, 10:25 PM

This is just the kind of news that should never happen. Too young, too sad.

Andrea - - it's already been pointed out how Jeff felt about you and the kids. I've never met anyone who just so openly adored his family as he did. Proud of each and every one of you.

I have had the pleasure - a few times - of being with you both. Your love for each other was always obvious and contagious. You both had the ability to make everyone around you feel happy and optimistic. I, personally, was always very, very proud of Jeff's ability to just jump into his fear of flying and work with it.

We all feel - I'm sure - that Jeff's lifetime was cut way too short. Please, Andrea, know that we all hold a piece of Jeff close to our heart, and will cherish his memory.

Debbie

MonicaS

05-25-2009, 03:30 AM

Barb-SAN

05-25-2009, 03:36 AM

I was wondering if anyone knew what kind of music Jeff liked.

A friend of mine lost his daughter not long ago(another person gone way too soon). He asked us to do something that I found moving. I thought I would do it for Jeff on the day of his funeral.
He asked people to play Beatles songs that day(she was a fan) . I found it a lovely way to honor a lovely young lady.

Thought it would be a nice way to say bye to Jeff from a distance.
Barb, hi back to you and others I haven't caught up with in a long time.
Yes, I was wondering what music he and Andrea were listening to that last day at the hospital. If anyone (Kelley?) checks in with Andrea before the funeral...perhaps we can locate a website playing that type of music...as an accompanyment to the chat. On Lucky 777 Internet Radio there are a number of different stations with various genres of music...perhaps someone else knows of other links, YouTube music videos, etc.

WillFlyToDisney

05-25-2009, 06:05 PM

Jeff was a huge Oingo Boingo fan. :thumbsup:

He also has some other favorite videos on his homepage on YouTube - quite an interesting mix. :)

Here is Jeff's page on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/boingonut1

Some of the videos Jeff has on his page:
Nelly - Country Grammar and Ride With Me
Loretta Lynn - Coal Miner's Daughter
Trace Adkins - Rough and Ready
Dr Dre - Detox Beats
Metallica - Enter Sandman
D-12 - How Come/Git Up
Slayer - Bloodline
Chumba Wumba - I Get Knocked Down
Bon Jovi - I'll Be There For You
George Jones - White Lightning
Hank Williams Jr. - That's How They Do It in Dixie
Jay-Z - Big Pimpin'
Willie Nelson & Ray Charles - Georgia on my Mind
Nickelback

acuradriveronr3train

05-26-2009, 03:40 AM

I am very sorry to hear this news. Everyone here has been so helpful to me in the past 3+ years, and I'm sure he was among the ones who helped.

AndreafromCali

05-27-2009, 07:04 AM

Yes, I was wondering what music he and Andrea were listening to that last day at the hospital. If anyone (Kelley?) checks in with Andrea before the funeral...perhaps we can locate a website playing that type of music...as an accompanyment to the chat. On Lucky 777 Internet Radio there are a number of different stations with various genres of music...perhaps someone else knows of other links, YouTube music videos, etc.

Bekah and I made a playlist on www.playlist.com (http://www.playlist.com) for jeff
we add songs daily to it as we hear things we love and he loved.

It has everything from Iz to Metallica to Brad Paisley to Linkin Park. Jeff and I have always been kind of eclectic in our musical tastes. Favorites: Oingo Boingo of course, Linkin Park, Trace Atkins, Brad Paisley, Metallica, Limp Bizkit, George Jones, Willie Nelson, Hank Jr. .... there are so many!

jadarite

05-30-2009, 10:04 AM

How do we listen? Is there a screen name or keyword to search in order to get to the songs?

Jumbo

06-01-2009, 03:58 PM

Goodness how very sad to read this. I don't come on here very often so I didn't know Jeff. My thoughts and prayers are with his family. xx

jesgooch

06-02-2009, 01:11 AM

I was just popping in to see how things were going...

I am so sorry to hear about Jeff. As a young widow myself, my heart goes out to Andrea...

RIP Jeff...

www.ywbb.org might be a good place for her to visit...

EyesSkyward

06-02-2009, 02:44 PM

Another one here who just popped by to check in, only to find out about this sad news.

I consider myself fortunate to have met Jeff at the Nashville Flight Fest. A great guy, gone too early.

- ESJeff

hobbes

12-09-2009, 09:11 PM

I hope nobody minds but I just read this entire thread and found it incredibly sad. I know this all happened months ago but I really just wanted to add my condolences. Jeff sounded like a truly lovely man who was loved by many - I will say a prayer for him and his family tonight.

AndreafromCali

04-11-2010, 04:32 AM

Hey friends! I was surfing around today and re-found this forum and read back through all the posts. It made me cry and also so happy to see everyone's memories and pictures of Jeff. He loved these sites and talking with everyone so much. He (and I) loved our flight fests and I won't forget meeting all the wonderful people.

Our family is doing well these days. Brendon is 19 and a freshman in college. Bekah is almost sweet 16 and a sophomore in high school. And little Jeffrey Jr. is about to turn 3 on May 11. WE all miss Jeff very very much and think of him many times a day. It's hard to believe its almost been a year since we lost him. But we are survivors and enjoy living each day.

Thank you to everyone who posted and I would love to read many more posts about how everyone is doing. Maybe I can come to a fest in the future :)

Love to all, Andrea -- AndreafromCali

Barb-SAN

04-11-2010, 04:37 AM

Hi Andrea,
Good to hear from you! :hug:
Glad to hear that you and family are doing well.

Yes, every time I come across a post from Jeff when looking at old threads from flight fests, etc, it gives me a little jolt to realize that he's gone (yet he has immortality through his writing and photos here at Taking Flight). :)

I hope someday we will have a flight fest again somewhere...keep checking in to see if we get one organized one day (and of course feel free to join us here in the discussions too).

Lynda

04-11-2010, 06:37 AM

Hi Andrea,

I am glad to hear you are all ok and getting on with living your lives the best you can.
We miss Jeff and have some great memories of our chat sessions.:)

AndreafromCali

04-11-2010, 05:52 PM

hello all
i have only met a few of you
this is jeffs daughter Rebekah.
Reading this brought back many many memories of my dad.
I now know why he always talked about you guys and how much he loved this place.
If i may add another happy memory to this..
When my father was in the hospital.. a couple days before his passing, i went to visit him. He wanted to take a walk so we pushed the "nurse button" to get him unhooked from wires. We pressed it like 7 times and... no nurse... my dad finally sent me to get to the doctor with the news of "If you dont cut my freaking wires i'll find some scissors and cut it myself."
This was so much like my dad and is the last memory i remember of him as his true self.
these forums made me cry.. but only because it brought back so many happy memories.
thank you to all.
love, Bekah.:hug: