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canoga
04-07-2005, 03:11 PM
Hi guys,

Let me start by saying I'm sorry I asked for help for an upcoming flight then disappeared. My plate has been really full lately.

After a baseline stress test, it was found that my 60yr old, skinny, non-smoking, fish/chicken/rice/veggie eating, active dad had 'some' blockage in his arteries. We were lead to believe it would be remedied with angioplasty.

While having the cath done, they found %90+ blockage in two arteries and ordered emergency bypass surgery. This all happened in about 4 days. I spent an hour Easter morning with my girls then drove down to Lvl for my dad's surgery on Monday morning. At noon the day of his surgery, I left to drive back to Cleveland and pack/make my 9am flight to LA the next day.

I had looked into changing my tickets but Continental informed me that I would have to pay TRIPLE what I paid for *each* original ticket. I decided to either go as planned or cancel if Dad had trouble.

The good news is that my Dad is doing extraordinary. He was released a day early because his post-op recovery was flawless. He is frustrated with continued fatigue and soreness (he is extremely active) but realizes that is a small price to pay for a second shot at life. He was quite literally a walking time bomb. Now, his 'numbers' are that of a 20 yr old. The surgeon said his heart was in mint condition.

Okay, on to my trip report........As you can imagine, I was pretty high on the anxiety scale to begin with. On top of the driving, surgery, packing......I was worried about my mom who was so scared she refused to eat or sleep for 4 days prior to his surgery. I had to take on a role at the hospital I never hope to take on again (Have you ever threatened your mom with forced hospitalization to get her to eat so she wouldn't pass out? Not fun.) I tried to go it alone but ended up calling Huey. As always, he was the voice of reason and was probably the main way I got on the plane.

While boarding, I introduced myself to the FAs and said I was a nervous flier and was mainly afraid of turbulence. They said it would be kinda bumpy as there were some gusty winds in CA. I buckled in and waited for the panic to take hold.

The funny thing is, I never got really afraid. The flight was so smooth, I could have balanced fine china on my head. Maybe one or two 30 second patches of small bumps. Otherwise, it was wonderful. I kept busy with my munchkins and tried to read. The capt also came on and explained that we were going to fly around a t-storm cell and it might be bumpy for 20 minutes. I could have kissed him. Not only did he give me a reason but he also let me know the bumps would be finite. Not to worry, we only bumped once or twice.

The flight was also FAST! We made it out in under 5 hrs. All in all, I dare say the flight was *enjoyable*.

Disneyland was wonderful - gorgeous weather and the girls had a blast. I remember doing a happy dance by the Matterhorn as I called my folks for a check up and they said my Dad was being released early to give up his bed to 'sick' people.

Visiting with Mike's family was also nice. HOWEVER, if I ever see another inch of the 405, it will be too soon. Mike's grandma lives in Valley Village (basically, N Hollywood) and we stayed in Anaheim. Roughly 35 miles. It took us 3.5 freaking hours to get back and forth. Not to mention the portion of the freeway that was closed due to a fatal shooting. I still love SoCal but am beginning to see why DH (who lived there until he was 18) detests the hassle of it all. We did have a nice picnic up in Valencia (north of the city) and that area is breathtaking.

The flight home was as bumpy as the ride out was smooth. Again, I wasn't nervous in the slightest. I was just starting to feel the effects of the prior week and I desperately wanted to nap. Instead, I was awakened every 3 minutes with a bump. The entire way was bumpy. And as a special bonus, we had very rough turb coming into Cleveland - this was the negative G kind where you dropped like a rollercoaster. I will never admit to saying this but I kinda like that kind. I love rollercoasters and if I'm gonna be in turb, I might as well have some fun at it.

All in all, the flights were quite boring. Just the kind I like. I was much less nervous about them - maybe I had just been through so much that I didn't have many nerves left to give. I was pretty tightly wound when I called Huey but he helped me get back down to a manageable level of stress.

I will say I think I am improving. I was nowhere near the level of panicked sobs like my trips of 2-3 yrs ago. I still don't enjoy flying but the stress is getting less and less. Anticipatory anxiety still sucks but the actual flight is not bad.

Beth

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smokycmt
04-07-2005, 03:18 PM
Hi Beth,

First I want to say that I am sorry that you and your family had to go through one heck of an ordeal. I am glad to hear your dad is recovering nicely!

SEcond, what a fantastic trip report! You should be so proud of yourself. Even though you went through so much stress beforehand which was difficult, it probably helped you to focus on something else rather than your flight.

Way to go!

Chrissy

YankssRule
04-07-2005, 03:26 PM
Aww Beth, I am so glad to hear that your Dad is OK and improving. My friend's father just went thru the same thing. He found out about his problem, get this, from getting that new "body scan." A Scan the does your entire body and picks out ALL flaw !!! He had to stay in the hospital a bit longer though, because he was getting dizzy spells and was getting blood clots. He is home now and doing fine.

I'm glad to hear that your flights were "uneventful," thank God. Even though you had a few "bumps." I don't mind slight turbulence, but I do mind the "rollercoaster" effect, as I hate rollercoasters. I hate the feel of "falling" or "dropping."

I posted ealier, i'm excited about finally going to Disney in Florida, but my panic attacks are starting to happen.

Anyway, all in good health, take care of yourself and your family, they are the most important things !!!!!

canoga
04-07-2005, 03:35 PM
Janet,

As I write this, people are arriving in Orlando for WDW. When I pick up my kids from daycare this afternoon, people will be arriving in Orlando for WDW. When I wake up tomorrow, people will be in their initial descent for Orlando.

What I am trying to say is that this is going on as we speak and goes on constantly. People arrive in Orlando every hour - and they arrive safely. You will too. And Disneyworld is so magical.......Focus on that. Things are gonna be okay.

WillFlyToDisney
04-07-2005, 03:36 PM
Beth - Hugs to you and your Dad! My Dad had emergency triple bypass surgery about 3 years ago and is doing fine (plays golf 6 days a week!).

Glad you had fun at Disneyland. Hope you took lots of pictures! POST THEM if you did. :)

Ah the 405. I miss LA so much.

Glad you had a GREAT trip and were able to relax on the flights.

Kelley

canoga
04-07-2005, 03:38 PM
DH now wants to go to Hawaii. This is a loooooong flight from Cleveland. Plus, I have another trip to China somewhere in my future (starting the paperwork for daughter #3 from China this summer). I'm nervous about the China flight because I prefer domestic airlines but I'm willing to discuss with DH the Hawaii trip. Also, he wants to 'island hop' once we get there - more flights!!!! :eek: :eek: :eek:

canoga
04-07-2005, 03:39 PM
Kelley,

I only have one pix stored on my computer here at work. I will go post it now under 'destinations'. It is the girls in front of the castle.

Beth

JPenny
04-07-2005, 04:09 PM
Proud, proud, proud of you!!!! We knew you could do it, and look, you've done it!!!! You're an inspiration.

Jean

YankssRule
04-07-2005, 04:27 PM
So true, Beth, you are an inspiration !!!!!!! Thank you :hug:

JamieAllison
04-08-2005, 12:26 AM
Hi Beth,

I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through that, but I'm glad your father is doing so well.

I am so impressed with the way you handled those flights, especially the bumpy one. I also really appreciate when the captain comes on and tells you what is happening or what is expected to happen. It really helps when you know why a flight is bumpy. Anyway, great report and great job!

Jamie

WillFlyToDisney
04-08-2005, 04:58 AM
The 40FIVE, Mon. ;)

My Dad did go thru a serious depression after his surgery. He was furious with us and the doctors for talking him into the procedure and was convinced he would never be able to anything but lay around. The recovery process is longer than he anticipated and I know that was part of his problem. He expected to be able to play golf a few days after surgery!

Beth - CUTIE PATOOTIES at Disneyland. What was their favorite ride? Did they get to see lot of characters?? I made the boys in the band pose with Ariel the last time we went to DL.

Kelley

canoga
04-08-2005, 01:50 PM
I work in cardiac research and have been on numerous studies about post-op depression and anger. Quite common. You would be surprised how many cases require temporary anti-depressant meds.

The docs I work with tend to believe the pt feels violated. Same way a robbery victim would feel. There are a lot of similarities in how crime victims and open heart surgery victims feel. No one knows why it shows up more in OHS than, say, gall bladder but it does. Plus, anesthetic always does a number on people and causes their emotions to become very sensitive.

But, thanks for the heads up. I know it is gonna be different if my Dad gets it as opposed to some patient in my database. So far, so good. My parents both have a wonderful sense of appreciation for the little things in life now. It is so very nice to see.

Beth

p.s. Kelley - characters galore!! Such a difference that WDW. You gotta try to see them there. In DL, the princesses were just walking around on the street. My daughters were mesmorized (Mike didn't mind too much either - he kept looking for Jasmine. I supposed that is because she shows more skin LOL).

Lynda
04-08-2005, 02:10 PM
Beth


So pleased that everything worked out for your dad.

Having nursed quite a number of patients having undergone this surgery it never ceases to amaze me how remarkable the human body is.

Your trip report was great!

Lynda

WillFlyToDisney
04-08-2005, 03:58 PM
Beth,

Oh dont I know it about the characters. When I first went to DL back in 1988 I worked for WDW in FL (yes we went to DL on vacation) and I have some great pix of us with Mickey AND Minnie together and several other characters. NOBODY bothered with them at all there. Quite a shock. The one though that really gets me is ARIEL. You wait an HOUR to see her at WDW and at DL you just walk up. She is usually sitting there bored out of her mind. This is a pix of the boys with her last year.

http://pic6.picturetrail.com/VOL171/1720900/3587893/45006775.jpg



Funny you mention Jasmine. Did you see the Aladdin show??? One of my friends (and another former Mouseketeer) plays Jasmine. Here is a pix of her during a show (we had front row seats!). DeeDee used to star in Madame Butterfly on Broadway - super talented girl!

http://pic6.picturetrail.com/VOL171/1720900/4802260/60896390.jpg


Glad you had a great time. I MISS LA so much. We were out there 6-7 WEEKS last year and I havent been since OCTOBER. Having serious Southern Cali withdrawal. I dont even mind the TRAFFIC! :)

Kelley

spiffyone
04-08-2005, 10:22 PM
My med students did a report on this 2 weeks ago (assigned by me). It sounds like there are 2 schools of thought- one, that there are biochemical reasons people get depressed (happens after MIs as well as after CABG) having to do with neurotransmitters, anesthesia drugs, cardiac meds, etc. The other is that looking one's mortality in the eye is frightening and once the crisis is passed, tends to make people depressed. I think both are right. I'm sitting here as I type this trying to think of a good study design that would evaluate how much of the problem is bio, and how much psych, but it prob doesn't matter.

These are the things I could talk about all day though...:)

spiff